Too Heavy

Once again, thank you for your time and insights. If you were interested, I think things are beginning to come together.

I've been under major spiritual reconstruction for a few years. It's been interesting but a challenge too. Your words made me think about things differently and helped me to have a dream that further explained what's going on.

In my dream, I ran into this man that I had a very brief relationship with three years ago. (In real life, I felt a deep connection with him that I've never felt with anyone else. He didn't feel the same so it ended. He was kind about the breakup but it hurt all the same. I haven't dated since.) This time though, he was about 100 lbs. heavier and he was completely in love with me. I was a little put off by his weight and I did NOT trust him at all. He was very affectionate and tried to hug me and hold my hand but I was embarrassed by his weight and afraid he'd leave me again so I was real stand offish towards him. (I don't understand why I had an issue with his weight. I tend to like my men on the burly side so it was an odd reaction for me.)

He didn't care. He knew exactly what I was feeling and gently persuaded me to walk arm and arm with him. I did but I wasn't about to let myself feel the same way about him that I did before. I stayed cold and unpersonable towards him.

After a time, he looked deeply at me, smiled, held my hands to his heart and said something along the lines of, "I'm ready for you. I'm just waiting for you to be open to having me." I stood there feeling ashamed for my behavior-being so closed off to someone who has so much love for me. Then, I woke up.

So, the lesson is: I need to learn to open up to people. (Friends, family, potential partners, etc.) I also need to continue letting go of all my negative and shame filled emotions. Which could easily require the assistance of my acupuncturist...and a good dream interpreter. :)

Thanks again!

Karen

Playing Dead

Hi Peregrin!

My dream last night felt really unusual to me. It just gave me an uncomfortable feeling when I woke up.

I was in some sort of class but it had a very casual feel to it. There were tons of people there. I could not even begin to count how many. We had to line up next to a cliff and were all holding hands. I was holding an old friend's, Ben, hand and some girl I cannot recall on the other side. Then someone pushed me and I fell from the cliff. I was pretty scared and I just kept falling and then this big strong man caught me at the bottom of the cliff. It was really weird because then the teacher was down there and she was says to me, "oh we're playing a trick on the class. They all think you're dead but you're not. Let's keep it going as long as possible and try to shock them as much as possible."

So I was supposed to wait until the opportune moment to come back and trick the whole class. So then I had to go into my room to wait. It was just I and someone else in this tiny room. This room actually was my childhood playroom that used to be at my old house. Then my little sister ran in and "found" me and I tried to catch her before she could run up the stairs and tell everyone I was still alive but I could not catch her. So I chased her up the stairs but it was too late. Everyone knew I was alive by then. But when I went up the stairs it wasn't at the school or cliff anymore, it was my old house. My mom had painted everything differently and she was cooking dinner and on the phone. She saw me and was like ohh hi you're here.

And that's it. It just felt like a really weird dream. Anywho that is all I think.

Sev

Meeting the Family

Thank you for taking the time to help me interpret my dream... I had had it several times and in color.

I am walking through what looks to be a "Little House on the Prairie" scene, but rather in modern times with paved roads... Kinda like the old country you would see in the text books, like Europe or something. I go through the door with my friend Vincent and to my left there is a room with 2 barrels of hay and to my right is a room with green sofas. We both walk through the hallway together to find a long table with lots of people being happy and cheerful and eating Italian food. They act like they know Vincent and are happy to have me along. (Note: I have never even met Vincent's family in real life) He sits at the end of the table and I shyly sit to the left of him and someone serves me and him a plate of spaghetti with meatballs. He sits there and looks into my eyes and it is as if there is no body else in the room but me and him and he is trying to make me laugh and I am trying to be polite and trying NOT to laugh coz I am eating with a bunch of people I don't know, and he just continues to look into my eyes and in my dream it feels like time is standing still, and he just continues to sit there and smile at me. After leaving the table, we walk through the hall way and find our way to a room on the right with a blue blanket on the bed where we lay down. He begins kissing my forehead and we end up falling asleep in each other's arms. THEN I WAKE UP...

..And every time I have had this dream it feels so real and when I wake up I find myself looking for Vincent, like a dork.

I would really appreciate it if you could help me out. Thanks so much

-Jacquelyn

Outrageous Sex

Ok, this is real. I have a girlfriend whom I have had for at least 2 years or so. I keep having this dream that there is this other girl that is a lot hotter than her with me and that we are always having hot passionate sex. I can't get enough of this girl. I actually spend time in my day just thinking of this girl and how good the "sex" is. I feel as if I don't love my girlfriend as much as I used to because I know that there is something better out there. In my dreams we do the craziest things. It feels as if I can go for hours with this girl. I have at least 10 orgasms and she can keep up with me easily. I have even masturbated during the day to this girl. I feel as if I should just end it with my girlfriend and seek out this wonder girl in my dreams. Maybe she is an actual person out there. What does this all mean?

James

Rock Star Change

I went to visit a friend called Wesley (people don't expect us to be friends as he is into rock music etc & I am not), who in the dream, lived in a small terrace house in the city. I knocked on his door & he let me in. His family was not too pleased that he had visitors but he let me in. We then went into the sunlounge, which reminded me of my friends house. We ended up kissing & he all of a sudden turned into a famous singer but I didn't seem to notice. His house then turned into mine although in the dream I didn't live there & his family were anxious of my being there.

Fix my AC

Dear Peregrin,

I had this dream over the weekend where I was in a "fancy" restaurant with another girl, who was obviously a friend but I never identified who she was.

Then these 2 guys came up to us and asked us to dance (I had no idea who they were, but I felt very comfortable with them). My friend was "fast" dancing with 1 guy, but I only wanted to "slow" dance, so the other guy and I just slow danced to the fast music. Next, the guy and I sat down at a table and there were all these little triangle shaped cards with little "fortunes" written on them (kind of like the sayings you find in a magic 8 ball). He was reading them, and we were laughing having a good time (but my friend and the other guy were not there anymore).

The next thing I remember is I was at my house all alone, and the heater or the air-conditioner was broken, so I called the guy and asked him to come over with intentions of him fixing it, but he thought that I wanted him to come over to sleep with him, and he said "no I can't do that to you", but I explained and he came over in the middle of the night to fix it. When he got there, I showed him into the basement and he climbed through this little hole in the wall to fix it. Then I woke up.

Thank you very much,

Ashley

NOT dreaming about a loved one

Dear Peregrin,

I remember my dreams infrequently (maybe once a week) but those I remember are all about my friends and family (even my uncles, who I am not supremely close to). However, I never (had maybe 1 or 2 dreams in my life) about my boyfriend of almost 3 years. We are (and have always been) in a long distance relationship but talk on the phone almost everyday and see each other usually once a week.

Does not dreaming about him implicate anything?

Thanks,

Tiffany

Birthday on the Roof

Hi Peregrin,

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about a person who I'm interested in getting involved with romantically but he doesn't live around where I am and he's always on the go. I met him a few months ago and gave him my number in a greeting card. This dream involves him and his name is Brett.

I am in at home in my dream but its not my actual house in real life. Somehow, Brett and his friends come to stay at our house while touring. By brother and my mom find out its Brett's birthday. While Brett and his friends decide to go somewhere for ten minutes. I climb up to the top of the roof from the inside of the house and stand and watch Brett and friends back out of the driveway in a burgundy pickup truck...they back out to the left and drive off. He is sitting in the truck between his friends. He doesn't see me watching him. I then go inside the house and talk to my cousin about how she wants to listen to jazz because she is in a sad mood. I said I couldn't talk on the phone for long because I had company over. Then my brother suggests getting Brett a gift but my mom says not to since we don't really know him that well. I was okay with that decision. Later my brother shows up with a blockbuster gift certificate in a CD format and I thought it looked last minute and generic but it had to do since we didn't have much time. I prayed to God begging and pleading for us to hook up since this was a rare and convenient opportunity and what were the odds this situation happening again and it was a now or never situation. Then I remembered myself and I realized I was praying out of fear and I'm not supposed to be begging or pleading for affection. I go back up to the roof and see Brett and company come back up to the driveway in the red truck from the left. I turn to look at him in the truck. He sees me looking and I look away. Brett then comes up to the roof to enter into the house. There is a newly constructed opening in the roof and he's trying to be a gentleman and help me through the opening first but I was too shy and intimidated about him holding me so I just let myself through. We all went to the dining room to celebrate his birthday and everyone is happy. After the birthday celebration is over, I am a bit discouraged since nothing happened. I go back up to the roof for the third time and watch Brett and friends in the truck. This time an older woman with glasses and her daughter who seemed like Brett's niece were seated with him to the left. I saw the girl on his lap and I my heart melted and I said "I'm gonna marry this man!" Suddenly I'm in the house and on the phone speaking to Brett. I don't know who called whom. But I suddenly confess that I had feelings for him and then he said he was interested in me too but that I was too stiff and frozen so the vibes weren't welcoming. Then we take it as one big misunderstanding and tells me to talk to him online. Suddenly, all my cousins and brothers want to talk to him too. He sends me a clip of a movie he is in... a sort of "Lord of the Rings" feel to it. He wears an eccentric mask and he looked weird. I just knew it was him by his eyes and nose. I was just relieved that he wasn't making out with any female costar for the movie.

I know this is pretty long.... Any help in interpreting this dream would help. Thanks a lot.

Yamini

Losing my Mind

Hello again,

I had a dream a couple days ago where I went to the bar my friends I always go to and Scott and I had an argument a couple of days before so I really wasn't talking to him. So when me and my best friend Laura got there Scott pulled her in the back to talk and when they came out she told me that I needed to go talk to him. So I go and talk to him and he starts to tell me that he was sorry about the argument and that he doesn't like when we don't talk, I asked him what did it matter we have gone days with out talking before what made this time any different? He told me that he finally realized that you are a wonderful friend and I would like to see what kind of relationship we would have if we started dating? I told him that I did not want to get hurt again, and what if Amanda wanted you back you gone back to her every other time what would make this time any different? He told me that he wanted to be with someone who loves him as much as he loves her, and he can see that love in my eyes. After I told him I would give it a try, he went into the d.j. booth and told everyone that he finally came to his senses and is with the person that he has wanted to be with for a while but was afraid. Everyone was happy for us especially my friend Laura how came up to me and told me that I told you it would all work out. And then the first song Scott and I slow danced to (end of the road) played and we were dancing and started kissing and it was the end of the dream.

Please help me with this, I know you probably think I have lost my mind.

Thanks again,

Jada

Creepy Library

Hi Peregrin,

I had a dream last night that was extremely freaky to me, and I'd like to know if you can help me interpret it. Here is what happened in the dream.

My fiance and I were in a library. We kept hearing bells in a room upstairs and as I am asking the librarian about them, I see my fiance with a book in his hand going up the stairs. The librarian and I follow him and he goes into a room with a light on at the top if the stairs with a lot of shelves of books. I am standing in the doorway to the room, and tell my fiance that I'll be right there and turn to speak to the librarian when the door starts to close by itself. I start to lightly push against it to stop it and it keeps shutting like someone is behind it pushing it closed. I start to put my foot in the door but something warns me that it would be crushed if I did, so I don't and the last thing I see as the door shuts, locks, and the light turns off is my fiance looking at me questioningly. The librarian tells me to open the door but I can't, and for some reason I don't dare to look at the window in the door and see what is happening in the darkened room or who or what might be looking back out at me. I woke up shivering with fear.

I've checked out a lot of dream dictionaries online, but for some reason I can get the main theme or meaning of this dream.

If you can help me it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance,

Cat

Jeep Flips

Dear Peregrin,

In my dream, I was riding with one of my best guy friends in his jeep and I didn't have my seat belt on. Well, we went too sharp around a corner and turned over. I was so sure I was going to get hurt, but somehow I wasn't. I was just really upset. Then Kreig (my guy friend) all the sudden was my ex-boyfriend and he held me and told me everything was going to be ok and I had the biggest feeling of comfort. It seemed to be the feeling I remember the most out of the dream.

Later I dreamed that my best friend and I had went over to my ex's aunt's house and her boyfriend and my ex were suppose to come and spend the night. I waited forever and I was getting really mad. It started raining, so eventually he called and said he wasn't going to come over b'c it was really late. I was really mad because I had went through all this trouble to be with him and it was like he didn't even care. What all could this possibly mean?

umm...I thought that maybe telling you a little about what's going on in my life might help with interpreting the dream. The guy friend that was in my dream is a guy that likes me and we dated for a little while about a year ago. I only think of him as a friend but he still likes me. My ex that's in my dream is a guy that we just recently broke up. We dated for about 5 months. We broke up because he's really confused about his future and since he's graduating this year he wants to make sure he doesn't mess that up...We kept dating for about 2 weeks without being in a relationship before I told him this past weekend that we just couldn't be like this anymore. That once he gets ready for something serious then maybe we can try again. We are still friends, but I've been worried that maybe we'll drift apart. He is a very important person in my life.

Thank you,

Holly

Yellow Parachute

Dear Peregrin Walker,

I had another strange dream last week and have suddenly remembered it entirely.

I was back in my old house and walking into the basement with my sister. When I got there, the basement was huge, very bright (sunlight coming in from the sliding glass doors)-but unfinished (the walls were drywall and the floor was pure cement-we fixed our basement in 1989), and with very soft cobwebs and dustballs all over the floor. I went over to the sliding glass door and watched a man in a yellow lycra suit come down into my backyard on a large yellow parachute. Then I slid back the door and stepped outside, it was windy and there were many letters (mail) flying in the air before dropping on the patio. Then I turned around and my ex-boyfriend stood watching me from over the next door neighbour's white picket fence (in real life it's wire) and I pulled my head back because he seemed hostile. He was standing there with a male figure.

What does this mean?

Thank you.

Dorothy

French Lodge

I think that I had a fairly typical dream last night but it was unusual for me for a number of reasons. I had a sex dream about an ex-boyfriend. It's not unusual for me to dream about him--that's happened for years. However, we just talk in those dreams...and we usually have very good conversations about what's happening in our lives (lots of symbolism too). It's also not usual for me to have a sex dream about anyone. I dream quite vividly, very colorfully, just not usually about that subject.

What I remember is that we were with a group of people, perhaps at some kind of retreat (it has a lodge feel), and my ex and I were not together at the beginning of the trip (he may have been with someone else). Then, we went into this French White, antique filled, shabby chic bedroom and started our relationship again. I was worried about what others would think but I enjoyed being with him.

In real life, I recently moved halfway across the country to start a new job and it's not working out well at all. I haven't been in contact with my ex in six years but he was married with a son. We have not dated in twelve years. I am single, never married. My career has taken up much of my time.

When I've dreamt of him in the past, I have always had this feeling as if it were a real connection with both of us just needing a friend to talk to. That's why this one has thrown me for a loop!

Any advice you could give would be most welcomed.

Thank you,

FloralQueen

Class Advocate

Dear Peregrin,

I had a dream last nite that the man I'm in love with, David, was a college professor of mine. We were in class one day and he was asking questions to the class to prepare for an upcoming test. In the description of a job (custodial), *shrugs* David left out one key characteristic during the lecture and expected us (the class) to know it for the test saying that it was our responsibility as students to get the right information for the test.

Well, that's when I kicked in as class advocate and gave him a piece of my mind, telling him that it wasn't fair that we should be responsible for something we knew absolutely nothing about. I kept saying that it wasn't fair. The debate seemed to go on for awhile. But he gave in to my point of view. I spoke with him last nite on the phone. We weren't in disagreement about anything.

Oh, the description of the room. Well, the classroom was set up in an auditorium type place, dimly lit and he was in the front of the class behind a lectern. Behind him was a large greenish blackboard. I don't remember how we were dressed.

Please tell me what this means?

Nneka

Adult Knick-Knack Store

Dear Peregrin,

Let me start this letter by saying, I think you have an awesome name :) I am hoping that you might have some insight into this beyond insane dream that I had!

I must apologize in advance because some of the details seem hazy or disjointed, but I will tell it to you as it appeared to me. I was in a store which was supposed to be an "adult" store, but nothing in the place seemed to be of that nature. In fact most of the merchandise was a random collection of knick-knacks, everything from chop sticks to baby items. I was in this store shopping for something for an evening with my boyfriend (in real life I am not seeing anyone), whose name was Steve. I somehow got the impression that my family did not approve of Steve so I was trying to keep my plans for the evening low key.

At some point I ran into Steve and we were walking around this same store and basically goofing around, I was pushing him around on something that looked like a cart for moving around large boxes, when I spotted someone from my family. I quickly tried to think of a way out of the impending argument, so I dressed Steve up in the uniform of my uncle Al, a dead baseball player, and tried to pass him off as my uncle. And it worked on some people. In fact it seemed the majority of the family believed it and wanted to bring "Al" over to my father. I tried to stop them, but they wouldn't listen to me.

The rest of the dream I experienced from the point of view of Steve/Al. I was introduced to my father, who knew this was a farce and we were talking and he was telling me about the real Al and how sad he was that he had died. I became so emotional I said that I wished I could go back in time and die in his place. I was crying in the dream and woke up crying.

What in the heck is this all about?

Oh, two important notes. I do have a dead uncle Al, who I never met, but he was not a baseball player and he was not my father's brother. And my father in the dream, was not my father in real life, and he seemed much older than my real father. In fact, none of the family members in the dream were actually members of my family.

If you can make heads or tails of this I would be eternally grateful!

-Jenn

Tiger Parade

I was in the house that I grew up in in the country. I was there as an adult and Lauren (my daughter), an adult male cousin, and my pet cat, Iggy were there. It was dark outside. and we were sitting on the screened front porch. The tarot card reader that I often go to was there and he was telling me my future. But then, my cat started talking and telling me that he wasn't telling me accurate information. And so my cat started predicting the future. telling me all about my future with the man that I'm in love with. The future was sounding rather nice.

All of a sudden, these huge glow in the dark masks were floating around out side. It was frightening. But then, the masks turned out to be large, beautiful albino tigers. They were parading through town. Just passing through. Not wanting to hurt anyone. There were hundreds of them. My cat was on the porch having a conversation with them. *shrugs* Anyway, when I noticed it was tigers, I called for my cousin to come and help lock up the windows and doors so they wouldn't get in.

I noticed that the back door wouldn't close, so I screamed to my cousin to come and fix the door because I couldn't do it. But instead of my cousin coming, the guy I am in love with appears and fixes the door. And I remember saying, "Wow, it sure feels good to have a man in the house again."

What on earth can this mean? I can tell u that I was married awhile ago.

Nneka

Men love?

This actually two dreams. The first dream. I was getting to know this guy fairly cute. We'd talk on the phone for hours, email, and just hang out. I mean we really talked and got to know each other. I loved him. Then came the day when we meet. Which doesn't make sense, because we've meet before. I remember living in a big white house. A house too big for one person and one cat. As I got ready to go out i remember feeling so nervous that my stomach hurt. Right in the middle of using the bathroom he knocked. I ran down the stairs to answer the door. I opened the door expecting love to come in but he hesitated on the porch. Took one look at me. Then said to his friend, I can't do this. This isn't what i expected. I know then he didn't love me. He wasn't talking about my looks. He meant me. I wasn't what he thought I was. He didn't love me the actually me. He was in love with idea of me. But he couldn't love me. With in that second I knew that is what he meant. I moved a move as if to hug me, then backed away apologizing, and left me. I was so hurt. I thought close the door, go upstairs and forget everything. To never come out again. To be alone and stay alone. Just as I was closing the door ,ready to forget and never feel again. All my friends were outside. They started to argue. They were ready to fight, rip each other apart. I forgot about forgetting and went outside to straighten things out. To make everything better. Then i woke up.

The other dream this guy I work with was talking to me.I mean really talking to me. As soon as he walked away i whispered I wish he would just listen to me. I turned and asked me to repeat myself. I did. He then became obsessed me. Stalking me, calling me. In the apartment i live now became possessed with ghost. My cat became a man. A very hot guy. I was so shocked, that fainted. Then as I was coming around the cat/man told me he love and had missed me.

southfire

Ex-Girlfriend

I dreamed of my Ex girlfriend last night, I didn't see her for something like a 1 year and a half.

In my dream she was laughing me out and then I said, "what's so funny" (forgot a part then). I found myself into my car with her next to me we are talking about before and then I stepped out of my car for something I don't remember. When I went back to my car I didn't find it, I lost my car and I took one just like this on the street my keys fitted on it. Then my ex girlfriend hands me a letter written with black ink on a folded piece of paper torn out of a writing pad. I couldn't open the letter for reading it. I woke up after that.

Hubrechtsen

History Date

Hi,

I had a dream the other night where I was sitting in my history class and this guy, Billy, who is really funny and his personality is great but I'm not sure if I really like him or not, and he is sitting in front of me, then he turns around and says "I was wondering if maybe you wanted to go out sometime like normal people do" then I said "sure, I'd love to". We smiled and the class started then a little while in to it he leans his head back (without turning around) and asks me a question about history, but the funny thing was that our heads touched, and he kept asking me questions but I didn't let my head get too close to his anymore because I thought it would look weird to others. The thing that strikes me most about this dream was how realistic it was, it was one of those dreams when I woke up I had to remind myself that it didn't really happen.

Thanks for your help,

Ashley

Long Distance Relationship

Hello

Last night I dreamed that I am on the beach on the see with my boy friend Daniel and his friend.There are the big waves on the see. We looked at tham and I can remmember if I try to swim on it.I know that I think at a moment that I will wait tham to pass. That friend who was with us at the beach has similar relationship like we have.He is in Montenegro and his girlfriend is on the Sicily and they see each other.Sometimes he goes in Italy or she comes in Montenegro

I have relationship with man who is maritime.He finished that faculty and work on boat. We met in the bus when we treveled to the see on a New years eve.He went to work on boat and he came in August.We spent time first in Belgrade ( in my town where his mother and sister live.After that we went to Kotor ( on the see) where he has some courses and exams to become 3rd officer ( for boat to have better job). We spent there 1 month and I beck to Belgrade to find the job becouse I finished an Architecture.Also I went to him last week and we spent 9 days.I love him very much and I think that he likes me.He has meny problems.His stepfather died and hi maintance his mother and sister.He has financial problems and becouse of that he sometimes is very ill-disposed also he has a guilty conscience becouse he has no money for us to go out.I said to him that isn,t problem.We spent beautiful time at home we talked wached fils and the other things and I think that he enjoy time with me.But when I am at Belgrade I fill that he is very sad and ill-disposed He has friends there but he fills alone meaby becouse of his problems. He wrote first time strange message: he loves me but it is hard for him becouse he fights with hundred other thingswhich are oposit of me! I didn,t understand that and I ask him to explain to me but he didn,t answer. He is so silent. Meaby I only think that is good in his life and the other thing are oposit of me. He will be back in Belgrade on the end of November when he will finish that courses.After that he must find company who will employ him.I fill that I should try to wait for him that year becouse we have high-quality time together.I was born 1971 on 21st oSeptember and he was born on 3rd of September 1976 (he is yanger than I ) I don,t fill difference between years he said he also doesn,t have problem becouse I am older than he is. We taleked abaut that and he said that meaby company will seek for him to stay at boat 1 year .He must to do that job to colect money to get on his feet and he said that I must think abaut everything.I would like to make family with him to get marriage and children with him.I know that distance between us becouse of his job is problem but I will try.

What is the meaning of this dream?

Sorry for a long e-mail.I want to explain situation to you. Also english isn,t my native language and meaby I have mistakes in orthography and grammar.

P.S.Boy before him ceated me and I broke that relationship.I have problem becouse I have no trust in people especialy in men.I always have fear of that.I start relationship with Daniel after 3 years pause becouse of that relationship before

Thanking in advance

Jelena